THE ART OF HELPING by Lauren Littauer Briggs (Book Tour & Book Giveaway)

Lauren Littauer Briggs

All of us want to offer comfort and support to someone who is hurting, but we often don’t know what to say or do. The Art of Helping—What to Say and Do When Someone is Hurting addresses 30 of the most common heartaches people face and takes away your fear of involvement by helping you understand what people are feeling and going through. From over 100 interviews and her own life experiences, author Lauren Briggs shares proven advice and offers practical help with a list of what to say— and do.

Why should I read The Art of Helping?

Do you know someone who is facing a crisis and wondered what you could do to help?  Have you ever faced a difficult time and wished your family and friends knew what you were going through and knew how to help you?

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I found that during my darkest hours, no one knew how much I was hurting, what I was going through or how they might help.

This is a book you’ll want to read before you need it—so that you will have ideas of what you can do and how you can respond—when you first hear the news. We want to help our family and friends through the hard times, but the right words or actions just don’t come to mind. The Art of Helping will give you the tools and enable you to turn thoughts into action.

How will The Art of Helping change me?

The Art of Helping is your go to book when life gets tough. It is a social Bible filled with concrete, tangible action items to empower you to make a difference at times when we would otherwise feel helpless. When people get this book in their hands, they always say, “How I wish I had this book when my friend needed help.”

What are some basic Do’s and Don’ts I need to know?

DON’T wait before you make contact.
DO Respond as soon as you hear the news.

DON’T SAY “If there’s anything you need, give me a call.”
DO Offer a specific thing you can do.

DON’T put pressure on yourself to do something you don’t like to do.
DO use your gifts and talents to help.

DON’T minimize what they are going through.
DO offer caring statements of acknowledgement.

DON’T ASK “When will you be your old self again? or Aren’t you over it yet?”
DO understand that once their life is touched by tragedy, they will never be their “old self” again. They will eventually reach a “new normal” but life will never be the same.

What are some of your favorite creative suggestions in The Art of Helping?

  • A mother of two young children picked up a hurting family’s laundry on Mondays, took it home and returned it all laundered and folded on Thursdays.
  • A man volunteered to come mow the lawn once a week and do some simple “honey do” chores.
  • My sons brought their game boy to the hospital for a friend going through chemo therapy. Every few days they would bring a different game to swap.



  1. Wow…this is first for me I think…I won something on Thanksgiving…and I am thrilled to get the book….thank you!!! Debbi F.


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    Please check your email for information on how to receive your FREE copy of THE ART OF HELPING by Lauren Littauer Briggs.


  3. Barbara Babcock · ·

    Thanks for writing this helpful AND needed book! I’m Singles Ministries Coordinator for 5 states for the Seventh-day Adventist Church. People at a crisis times hear THE dumbest things from well meaning friends. Words can hurt – words can also heal. Thanks for entering me in the drawing.


  4. Okay, let me first mention that Lauren is an amazing person that knows that LOVE is a verb not a noun…whether she is just listening, it is active listening and whether she is responding it is with sincerity and grace. She truly models what she speaks about. I love her honesty and her wisdom when to set healthy boundaries for herself. I am a mental health practitioner and for a person who states I am not qualified as a counselor, she certainly has the skills that require the characteristics of a good therapist. I enjoy the simplicity of the Art of Helping due to the fact that it helps people to realize helping others does not have to be so complicated in the era of complicated issues and practices with HIPPA laws a person almost feels like they are an alien rather than a person who happens to be hurting whether they are in a hospital or behavioral health unit.

    Thanks Lauren for your compassion, strength and wisdom…


    Karen Haynes Gutherless, MA, MACC, LMHP, LPC


  5. Bennet Pomerantz-author/Blog Talk Radio co-host · ·

    It sounds like a great book-i want to read it


  6. I’m looking for a book for my neighborhood book club to read in April. This sounds like a great one, very practical and very different from our usual novels.
    I remember some helpful and some not so helpful things that friends did and said when my father committed suicide. At the time, I was hurt very deeply by one woman. I never spoke to her again.
    I sure hope that I never react in a way that would cause such hurt. Looking forward to learning what you have to say Lauren.
    P.S. I saw somewhere that you were doing Virtual Book Tours. I can’t find that again. Is there a way I can sign up?


  7. i’m interested in reading this book…


  8. I’d love a copy of this book! Thanks for the giveaway!


  9. Lauren! Thank you for writing this book- at this time! I’m one who grieves yet lives to rejoice. I coach of others who grieve and want to live to rejoice. The stories of expectations and insinuations that many have shared indicates that people often don’t ‘feel’ before they speak. Sometimes it is even those who have reason to grieve, but deny themselves – out of fear or maybe even because it is just ‘too hard’!
    Thanks for sharing out of your darkness to speak light into the hearts of so many. I look forward to reading & sharing it with others.


  10. Melani Seman · ·

    This does sound like a great book! It is hard to know what to say and sometimes we don’t say anything or say the wrong thing! I would really love to read this book!


  11. ashley chance · ·

    This sounds like an insightful book to have. I think with the profession I’m goin in it would be very useful where could I purchase this book


  12. As one who is in seminary to be a pastoral care pastor, I am very much interested in your book. Any and all worthy resources (tools) are appreciated.
    Thank you!


  13. Please include me in your giveaway. This sounds like a book I could use.


  14. Another don’t – don’t say, “I know how you feel,” unless you really do. When my 16 yo daughter died, someone said this to me. My reply, “Really? When did your daughter die?” Them, “Oh, well, I’ve never lost a child, but my grandma passed last year.”

    Losing a child and a grandmother are not at all the same.

    Another Do – If you don’t know what to say, just saying, “I’m sorry,” is a big help. I much preferred hearing “I’m sorry” rather than some trite saying where the person was trying to identify with me like the “I know how you feel” remark.

    I would love a copy of this book. In college I studied counseling and part of that was a death & dying class. When my husband passed, I read “I Wasn’t Ready To Say Goodbye” by Brook Noel. It is a good book but as we approach the anniversary of Bear’s death, I’m no closer to feeling better.


  15. Danna Adams · ·

    Sounds like a book everyone should read, especially in today’s world where there seems to be so many people battling through pain just to survive.


  16. would LOVE this book


  17. Actually this is a good book. I have it in my book library and encourage everyone to check it out!


  18. I’d be interested in reading your book. “How to help” information is always useful. Thanks for letting us know about it.


  19. Sounds like a great book! I often wonder what can I do, should I do… what do the grieving want? This would be an awesome help in our ministry!


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