All of us want to offer comfort and support to someone who is hurting, but we often don’t know what to say or do. The Art of Helping—What to Say and Do When Someone is Hurting addresses 30 of the most common heartaches people face and takes away your fear of involvement by helping you understand what people are feeling and going through. From over 100 interviews and her own life experiences, author Lauren Briggs shares proven advice and offers practical help with a list of what to say— and do.
Why should I read The Art of Helping?
Do you know someone who is facing a crisis and wondered what you could do to help? Have you ever faced a difficult time and wished your family and friends knew what you were going through and knew how to help you?
I found that during my darkest hours, no one knew how much I was hurting, what I was going through or how they might help.
This is a book you’ll want to read before you need it—so that you will have ideas of what you can do and how you can respond—when you first hear the news. We want to help our family and friends through the hard times, but the right words or actions just don’t come to mind. The Art of Helping will give you the tools and enable you to turn thoughts into action.
How will The Art of Helping change me?
The Art of Helping is your go to book when life gets tough. It is a social Bible filled with concrete, tangible action items to empower you to make a difference at times when we would otherwise feel helpless. When people get this book in their hands, they always say, “How I wish I had this book when my friend needed help.”
What are some basic Do’s and Don’ts I need to know?
DON’T wait before you make contact.
DO Respond as soon as you hear the news.
DON’T SAY “If there’s anything you need, give me a call.”
DO Offer a specific thing you can do.
DON’T put pressure on yourself to do something you don’t like to do.
DO use your gifts and talents to help.
DON’T minimize what they are going through.
DO offer caring statements of acknowledgement.
DON’T ASK “When will you be your old self again? or Aren’t you over it yet?”
DO understand that once their life is touched by tragedy, they will never be their “old self” again. They will eventually reach a “new normal” but life will never be the same.
What are some of your favorite creative suggestions in The Art of Helping?
- A mother of two young children picked up a hurting family’s laundry on Mondays, took it home and returned it all laundered and folded on Thursdays.
- A man volunteered to come mow the lawn once a week and do some simple “honey do” chores.
- My sons brought their game boy to the hospital for a friend going through chemo therapy. Every few days they would bring a different game to swap.