Inadequate? I’ll-Never-Be-Perfect? … Do You Ever Feel This Way? | Sandra Aldrich

sandraaldrich-buttonsHave you ever felt inadequate? Oh, I have! In fact, over the years and despite my supposed accomplishments, I struggle with who I think I should be as a Christian woman. After all, shouldn’t I be slim, silent and musically gifted? Well, none of those attributes describe me.

But I’m learning—finally—to encourage myself with the delicious thought that our heavenly Father creates individuals and not assembly line robots. Yes, I need to take care of my health and keep working on my weight, but it’s okay to be who I am.

As a fun reminder, I have on my desk a pint jar filled with antique buttons: tiny pinks from a baby’s garment, coarse browns from a work shirt, bright blues from a Sunday dress, and my favorite—a bold red, green, and purple square button that may have fancied up an otherwise drab winter coat.

I found the jar in an antique shop one day when I was convinced I’d never fit the “proper woman” mold I felt others wanted me poured into. Actually, the jar I bought sat next to one filled with only white pearl buttons. I ignored the pearl collection and purchased the jar filled with contrast and color.

Now, whenever I get into a I’ll-never-be-perfect mood, I need only to look at that jar to be reminded life would be boring if we all were the same. So if you’re a bold red, green, and purple “button” like me who doesn’t fit in the pearl-button world, rejoice! All of us are needed—and fit—in God’s perfect, interesting plan.


Sandra P. Aldrich, author and popular inspirational speaker, is the president of Bold Words, Inc. Sandra holds a master’s degree from Eastern Michigan University – and, she says, a “Ph.D. from the School of Hard Knocks.” Her career includes 15 years as a public school teacher in the Detroit area, a member on the grief counseling team for a funeral home chain, and 9 years in Christian ministry that included several years as senior editor of Focus on the Family magazine.

Sandra’s often humorous presentations feature the importance of solid relationships – to God, family, friends and self. In addition, she has written and spoken on joyful living, marriage and family issues, grief, single parenting and family communication.



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