Letting Go of a Bad Feeling | Melissa Maimone


woman-737439_640Through the years, I’ve become an expert at feeling bad. The New Year puts my expert skills in overdrive. I assess my plans & goals for this past year; the things I accomplished and the things I didn’t. I feel great about my successes. The things I’ve failed at, forgotten, or left unfinished?

I feel bad.

I realize I will not succeed at everything. I’m only human. Setting big goals, making big plans, wanting more for myself is exhilarating and important for growth. But when I have fallen short, I am not quite ready to just shrug my shoulders and move on. I want to do something about it. I want to take control of my failings. I want to make sure that my brain knows that my heart knows that I know I’ve failed.

I don’t like to fall short. If I have the chance to try again, I want to do better. But somehow I’ve thought that feeling bad about my failings would ensure success in the future.

Have you ever failed at a diet plan? I have. And I’m really good at feeling bad about it.

It’s true, not fitting into your jeans feels bad. But feeling bad about not fitting into your jeans? That is another thing entirely. Ruminating about the ways you’ve failed at your diet goals or how much of a loser you are will never bring positive results. Feeling bad doesn’t burn calories. It only invites shame. And shame invites isolation. And isolation invites ice cream. And around it goes.

I’m fairly certain no one ever climbed Mount Everest because they felt bad.

Acknowledging an unmet goal is healthy and mature. Understanding that we might need to adjust our action plan is necessary. But feeling bad is not fruitful and even more– it’s not godly.

Brennan Manning writes, “In order to be free to be faithful to [Jesus], to others and ourselves, we must be liberated from the damnable imprisonment of self-hatred, freed from the shackles of projectionism, perfectionism, moralism/legalism, and unhealthy guilt. Freedom for fidelity demands freedom from enslavement.”

So, as we jump into this new year, let us set goals. Make resolutions. Dream big. And when some of those dreams don’t work out? We will reassess. We will recalibrate. But we will not be shackled by the prison of feeling bad. For all the times we will fail, fall short, and remain unfinished, we will also remain loved by our God, who is infinitely pleased with us. And that feels so very good.

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1

-Melissa Maimone is a Christian speaker & writer based in Southern California. For booking information visit MelissaMaimone.com


MelissaMaimone-2016MELISSA MAIMONE brings encouragement to her audiences with a blend of insight, transparency, and theology. Affected by depression and anxiety from a young age, she shares with vulnerability (and plenty of humor!) that a hopeful, joyous life is possible no matter what your circumstance.

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