And what about the women who we judge to “have it all together”? Or, those women who appear to have a perfect life? Often, these women believe that if we really knew who they were, we would not like or accept them.
There are many women who are hiding behind the I’ve Got It All Together mask.
The IGIAT mask is the one we hide behind so that we do not have to reveal anything about ourselves. So we don’t look bad. Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to walk in a positive light with a positive attitude. God wants us there. I’m talking about being afraid to let people in, to let them know that we need prayer, or have issues with our children, marriage, job, etc.
Hiding behind the mask is harmful to us, but it can also be harmful to others. When other women see us and assume, because we have our mask up, that all is perfect, they may feel inferior. When we are willing to be transparent with other women and allow them to see us as we really are, we can be an encouragement.
You may have heard the saying, “Friends for a season, friends for a reason, friends for a lifetime.” Over the past year, I have been contemplating the meaning of this statement. If you are like me, you’d like to keep all of your friends as friends forever. But that isn’t the life cycle of friendship.
What gets in the way of friendship between women? Jealously, envy, and mistrust are a few things that can prevent us from being friends. Hurtful experiences in the past with women friends can get in the way.
There is no way to know the details of another person’s life unless we invest in them.
How would God have us to approach this? We can’t spend time in someone else’s shoes if we don’t have a “someone” in our life.
My challenge to you:
- Be open! Don’t withdraw into yourself.
- Be intentional! Make the decision that you will reach out.
- Be loving! Approach every relationship from a love standpoint as Jesus asked us to do.
Aren’t you glad that God does not just look at our outer circumstances and judge us by what appears to be true? The Lord knows everything about us and He loves us unconditionally.
Sherry Poundstone’s passion is to show women that God sees them as He created them, not through the eyes of the world. Through humor and real-life examples, Sherry explores the practical life application of God’s principles.