I love this quote; “Be Kind Always. For everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” Just spending a few minutes looking over your Facebook feed! Among the check in’s, puppy pic’s, and new baby announcements you’ll find divorce, death, financial trouble, friendships falling apart, etc., etc. That is why it is so important to practice kindness. Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Free to give, your kindness can make a huge difference in the life of a friend.
Practice kindness by:
- Pressing into the silence – Don’t mistake distance for coldness. People who are in a battle are often so consumed or whelmed with the fight that they withdraw from relationships. Press in and pursue the distant!
- Being quick to listen and slow to speak – the ministry of presence is one of the most significant gifts we can give to another human being. As people trust you with their troubles listen and ask questions. Listen intentionally by putting away your phone and looking them in the eye. Give them your full and undivided attention. Don’t try to fix, offer advice (unless asked), or share your “me too” stories. Listening, without putting in your two cents, makes a person feel safe and sheltered, which is so important during a battle.
- Resisting the urge to judge – People in a battle need our compassion, not our judgment. Knowing how to handle the fight in front of you, or what to do is not always easy. Judgement quenches intimacy, undermines the ministry of presence, and causes division. Practice 1 Corinthians 13:7 AMP:
Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening].
Finally, be a battle buddy and pray! Lift them up and hold them up! Ask the Lord to give them wisdom, revelation, patience, perseverance and most of all hope!
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