I’d like to teach you a word that I learned when I was a little girl growing up in Belize. Their official language is English, but everybody speaks Creole. It’s just a corruption of the English language, but it is very sing-songy, and very fun.
Little did I know when I was growing up in Belize, talking this marvelous little dialect, that there was a particular Creole word that would totally change my life twenty years later. The word is BRATA, a wonderful little word. A brata is a gift given to you for no specific reason at all. It’s not your birthday, it’s not Christmas, it’s just a little gift given to you out of the goodness of the giver’s heart.
One night my husband and I had the absolute worst, horrific, emotional fight. Not a physical fight, but it was one of those times when you know you have reached the darkest, deepest hole and pit in your life. My husband, in the midst of this fight, looked at me, stretched out his arm and said, “You’re gone. You are out of here.” And rightfully so.
I was not walking with the Lord, I was totally in the wrong, and he had every right to ask me to leave. And in that terrible, awful, bitterest moment when I was faced with losing absolutely everything that was dear to me–my husband, my brand new baby, my brand new house, and my life as I knew it–in that dark, horrible moment God came to me and said, “Becky, you’re going to be okay. You will survive this. My child, the reason why I know, and am telling you right now that you’re going to be fine, is because that man is a brata. That baby is a brata. That house is a brata. Those are bonus gifts that I brought into your life to give you joy, to bless your life, and to give you the abundant life that I promised you.”
“Those are bonus gifts that you can live without. You can live without that man, you can survive without that baby, and that house is a bonus gift. They are all bratas. The only thing you need in life, the ULTIMATE brata, is your relationship with ME. I am your salvation, I will never leave you nor forsake you. I love you with an everlasting love.”
In that moment I knew that I would make it. He spoke to me with such truth that I instantly and readily grasped it, knowing that yes, as horrific as this moment was, as horrible as the loss seemed, I would survive. I could make it, I was loved, I was cherished, and I was bought with a price. That was the epiphany moment of my life.
My life turned around at that point, and praise God, He is the Great Physician. He healed our marriage, and my heart. We recently celebrated our 47th wedding anniversary.
And I know His joy every day.
** This is an excerpt from Becky’s book, Discover Real Joy: How To Remove The Four Joy-Killers That Sabotage Your Life, available wherever Christian books are sold.
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